Expectations

I wish that we could just get rid of our expectations. Expectations ruin relationships. Expectations ruin everything really. Expectations are usually completely selfish or preconceived, and they really prevent us from seeing the good in a situation. Take it in relationships for example. If you live with expectations of what that friend is supposed to be, then they will only be seen as good if they meet your expectations; if they fail to meet your expectations then they fail as a friend. How is that even fair? How is it fair to confine a friend, someone you love, into a box of what they should be? Why don't we just accept people for the way they are? People are so amazing in their own regard, but if we have made our judgements about who they should be, it'll be quite easy to overlook how amazing these people are. A relationship, whether spiritual or physical, cannot thrive if they have to live to your expectations.
We should be living in the moment, and part of living in the moment is taking things for how they are and finding something positive about it. Most things will fail to meet your expectations, so why would you want to live a life where you are constantly disappointed? Wouldn't that just be the saddest life imaginable? And wouldn't that blind you from the gifts that God gives us everyday? It's not fair. It's not right. It's judgemental, selfish, and unfair. It bothers me when we do this. I say we because I know that I do this myself. I'm definitely not above anyone in this aspect of my life. I hope that someday we will live a life of expectancy, where we are deeply longing to be with the ones we love, without expectations. It'll be amazing.